When a woman is mad at her boyfriend, it often means a lot of things. He could have done something really wrong or actually failed to do something which is equally wrong.
Ladies, you’ll agree that being unnecessarily mean to your boyfriend does not automatically translate to not loving him anymore. Sometimes, it may actually mean that you love him probably a little too much.
Women are known to be mean to their significant others for a lot of reasons as already insinuated. In this article, we would look at a couple of the reasons women are mean to their boyfriends for ‘no just cause’.
In all honesty, there is always a reason but most times it won’t make sense to the boyfriend or even the girl.
Reasons Why I Am Mean To My Boyfriend Without Any Genuine Reason
1. I Miss Him
A woman is mostly mean to her boyfriend when she badly wants him close and misses him but he is unavailable. She then gets overwhelmed with a sadness that over time may turn to anger that can’t be helped.
Eventually, when she gets to communicate with him, she exhumes a certain type of meanness that may be unexplainable.
This meanness often disappears when the boyfriend appeases her with sweet words or gifts and most especially, his undivided attention for a while.
2. Hormonal Imbalances
Hormonal imbalances which may occur when a woman is ovulating or on her period are generally very unexplainable and mostly termed unreasonable. However, only the woman understands what she’s going through and sometimes, how to deal with it.
When a woman is in this state, she is mostly irritated by a lot and even an innocent joke can trigger a mean response. She is just going through a phase and ‘no’ there is no getting used to it but she will get her mood back and better after some hours.
3. General Fatigue
Sometimes we come back from work or a day running errands and won’t want anything other than a shower and to rest. On days like this, when our boyfriends bring up certain discussions and talks, it may send off the vibe that we’re being disturbed and so we’ll react in a ‘mean’ manner.
Just like having hormonal imbalances, being tired is reason enough for a woman to be mean. It does not have to be genuine it’s just how she feels at the time. Guys, give her time, she will come around and be your sweet bae again.
4. He Forgot Something Very Important
This is actually a genuine reason for a woman to be angry but not necessarily mean. When a boyfriend forgets important dates, it irks the lady because she feels like she is not so important to him.
However, forgetting important dates isn’t the only reason for this attitude. Even forgetting to pick up the cookies she asked for, from the bakery or forgetting to pick something up from the supermarket for her.
In general, ladies hate when they tell their boyfriends to do something important and they forget. They totally abhor when it seems they and their desires are being ignored or treated less than important.
5. I’m Jealous Or Insecure
When I feel my place in your life is threatened, the swiftest response is to put up a wall. Maybe in place of throwing tantrums and nagging, I’ll just switch off and start giving you the mean-girl treatment.
Might not be the best method of handling the situation but it may seem right at the time. Plus, when a woman is hurting or threatened, you can’t predict how she will react.
6. I’m Trying To Protect You
Sometimes, when a woman acts mean to the man she loves, she’s trying to protect him. It could be in the ‘mom’ form or just as a caring girlfriend. I probably believe that using an ‘iron hand’ with you will get you to accept my point of view or prevent you from doing something I don’t approve of.
This is actually a genuine reason though it may seem too harsh while executing.
7. He Fails To Fulfill A Promise
Just like forgetting something, failing to keep promises is actually another reason for me to give you the cold shoulder. Do not promise me a trip to Dubai for my birthday and then fail me, bro. This won’t sit well with this baby girl.
Do not promise to stop a habit too and then I see you lapse or go back on said promise. Nobody actually likes a promise and failure so this feeling isn’t peculiar to just girls in a relationship.
8. I’m Trying To Build Walls
For whatever reason, women just feel like building up walls. Maybe I feel I’ve been too vulnerable and have let my guards down a lot and so the need to put on the ‘hard girl’ pants could just spring up.
Building walls could also be a means to protect the boyfriend from a situation that could’ve escalated into something worse. Sometimes these walls won’t mean something really deep and other times, it could be a foundation for a sad tale.
Building walls could also translate to not wanting the boyfriend into my life anymore and it could be a result of a distraction maybe, in human form.
9. I’m Projecting
Transfer of aggression you may call it but this may not be aggression always. I could be projecting something I heard that I expected my boyfriend to tell me or something I found out from snooping around.
Because I know I wasn’t supposed to find it out or the means through which I found out wasn’t right, I would only project my annoyance through being mean.
This can easily be taken care of by asking questions and getting me to talk about whatever is eating me up.
10. I’m Tired Of The Relationship
I could give my boyfriend the cold shoulder and be mean to him for one of these two reasons;
- I found someone else and so I want to break up and move on or, I’m just tired of being in a relationship. Sometimes, breaking up may be hard to achieve because guilt might seep in especially if the boyfriend has done so much for me.
- I want the relationship to go further. When I feel like the relationship has tallied for so long and have been expecting him to pop the question but he doesn’t seem to feel the same way. It can be frustrating even when most of our friends have been getting married and we’re only celebrating relationship anniversaries.