When a man ignores a woman especially the one he loves, it could be for different reasons. These reasons are often quite serious or important to note. However, it could be that you have no hand in what’s up and he just feels some type of way and may want to be left alone for a while.
Some men, unlike most women, do not throw unnecessary tantrums and feats just to get the attention of their lovers. When they complain about something, then it really does hurt them.
When a man is quiet about what he feels, then he probably has spoken about it a couple of times and sees no change so he feels there’s no point repeating himself.
However, some reports have it that when a man ignores you, he is either upset with you and wants peace and space or he is losing interest in you. It could also be that he feels the relationship is moving too fast or he is just playing games with you.
Keeping in mind that communication is key in every form of relationship, it is important to note that when a man starts to ignore his girlfriend, it spells doom. That relationship is bound to fail and faster than one can imagine.
Let us look at a couple of things you as a lady should say to your boyfriend when he starts to ignore you. These things may help restore your relationship or even make it better.
Things You Should Say To Your Boyfriend When He Ignores You
1. Ask Him About His Day/Night
Asking about how well he slept or about his day and work is a means to strike up a conversation with him. When you wake in the morning and notice your boyfriend is ignoring you, ask him if he slept well. If and when he answers, hold and continue the conversation.
If this scenario plays out in the evening, ask him about his day and work. Try to find out if his mood is a result of something that happened at his place of work or on his way home.
Try to get him to talk but do not pester him so much. Let him open up at his own pace but it’s always nice to know you are bothered.
2. Ask Him What You Did Wrong
If everything thing else seems okay but he is still ignoring you, ask him if you offended him in any way. You probably did something that rubbed off wrongly on him hence his reaction.
Get him to say if you’re the cause of him ignoring you and let him say what you did wrong. Try to listen carefully when he eventually opens up and understand why he feels the way he does.
3. Say You Are Sorry
Now you know you caused it and what do you say next? “I’m sorry baby, I didn’t mean to offend you with what I did/said”. Those words are not so difficult to say, ladies.
With how often men get to apologize to their ladies, hearing a woman apologize genuinely can melt hearts. Also, when apologizing, try not to justify anything. There is no need for a ‘but’ in your apology because it will only invalidate that essence of being sorry.
Apologize from your heart and seek reconciliation and peace.
4. Offer To Make Amends
Most times an apology does all the tricks, other times, not so much. Whatever the case may be, still seek to make amends. Ask him if he wants you to do something for him.
If what got him upset in the first place was a social media post or he saw you flirting with someone else, offer to take the post down or stop being flirtatious.
This act will put him at ease and when he notices that you are being sincere about your repentance, he would get back to being your loving boyfriend again. He may not even want the amendment, just you offering to would do a lot of magic.
5. Offer Him Space
Offer to let him be for a while. This should be an option when he isn’t responsive to the aforementioned. He probably is hurting so much and would only heal on his own. At this point, it is wise to let him be on his own for a while and when he is done brooding over it, he’ll most likely reach out to you.
Again, do not pester him and let him have space if he wants it. Let him be for a while and only reach back out when you feel his space is getting too extended.
6. Let Him Know That His Silence Is Affecting You Too
Sometimes, letting your boyfriend know how affected you are by his action will make him mellow. Hearing you talk about how much you’re hurting from the cold shoulder treatment you are getting from him just might make him have a rethink.
While at this, try not to threaten him. Resist the urge to say ‘Your actions are pushing me to another man’. You could make him understand that as he is ignoring you, with time you both would be wide apart and won’t be able to fix the issue anymore.
Make your boyfriend understand that you understand he is hurting but you are also hurting and you both won’t be fine if you don’t talk about what the matter is.
7. Text Him Sweet Things
Texting your boyfriend is cute. Sometimes, texting him on several platforms would soften his mind. Another cute thing to do is write him notes.
These texts and notes could be you reassuring him that you’ll always be available for him to talk to. It could also be you sending him lovely poems and lyrics from love songs or his favorite songs.
Men love to be pampered and reassured too, so please don’t hold back, ladies. Attach gifts to the notes too, if possible. I’m pretty sure he would respond to these acts and viola, you can start up a conversation afterward.
8. Ask Him If He Wants A Break-up
Maybe, just maybe, your boyfriend is tired of the relationship. I mean, what man still in love with you would ignore you for so long, right? He probably isn’t so brave to tell you about how he feels so ask him outrightly.
If he does actually want a breakup, he would accept and tell you and then you find a way to move on from here. If he doesn’t he will dispute it and probably tell you what the issue is and then you both find a solution to the issue from here.
Anyhow this goes, asking this question would get a response from him, and from the response, you know how to follow up the conversation.
9. “Should I Cook For You Baby?”
‘The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach’. This is no lie, you know. Offer to cook for him even if you don’t know how to. He’ll probably then tease you about how you don’t know how to cook and laugh at you.
If you know how to cook and he loves your food, he most likely won’t turn it down. When you do cook for him, rub his ego and pet him while he eats. He will start talking to you then.
However, if he rejects your food, find out why and try to get him to talk to you. Maybe let him know his rejection hurts you too.
10. Tell Him You Love Him
Sometimes the ice breaker when your boyfriend is ignoring you is to tell him that you love him. This is another form of reassurance because sometimes, that’s all he needs to know.
Let him hear how you feel. Tell him, in plain words, what you feel for him. Remind him of your love for him. Let him know the love you have for him is unwavering.
He may still be taking his time to come around so just let him know that you and your love for him are going nowhere. Whenever he wants back, you will be there with your arms wide and your love true.
Do not expect him to reciprocate or tell you that he loves you too but he just might. If he doesn’t, be patient and wait for him to love you back as he used to.