Men can be analytical while choosing a suitable significant other. They may appear nice and caring sometimes, and other times provoking. However the attitude portrayed, there are always glaring red flags that shouldn’t be ignored. Understanding these 10 signs will prevent you from chasing fantasies and give clarity to the path of love.
Signs He Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You
1. He Seems Withdrawn
The first sign to project that a guy isn’t interested in a relationship with you is withdrawal. First, you begin to bore him, and then he distances himself from you. Although his withdrawal might be a result of external or internal factors he needs space to figure out solutions.
However, if this lasts for an extended period and continues to a point where he doesn’t communicate with you anymore, that’s not normal. It’s a red flag saying I’m not interested in you.
2. He Doesn’t Initiate Conversations
At the beginning of your friendship, conversations were usually more intense. You want to see each other all the time and there was a lot of texting back and forth, but as you feel settled in and longing for the next phase of your friendship, he’s always waiting for you to start up conversations.
When you do, he doesn’t reply to your messages in time and then gets upset when you complain. Be sure that he is conversing with someone else and isn’t interested in you.
3. He Gets Easily Annoyed By You
A healthy relationship is gauged by how good you feel about your partner, if he wants a relationship with you then you should be the focus of his excitement.
Everything about you should make him happy and even though there can be other reasons for his mood swing, it should be always. When anyone begins to find you annoying, it’s a sign that they don’t want you around them.
4. Doesn’t Try To Comfort You When You Are Upset
One of the major benefits of being in a relationship is having a reliable support system. There is no better feeling than knowing your partner has your back and you can rely on him when things get rough. You become a priority and anything that discomforts you, has a way of getting to him.
When your man isn’t making efforts to get you out of a rough situation or brighten your mood, it’s very obvious that you’re not important to them and they are not interested in you.
5. He hasn’t introduced you to his circle
When a guy is into you, he introduces you to the important people in his life. He flaunts you to the world when he is proud of you. If you don’t know who he hangs out with, who he visits, then be sure that he’s not ready to let you into his life. He may just want you for other reasons but definitely not a relationship.
6. He Is Concerned With What You Can Offer Him
You’re in a parasitic friendship if your man is always at the receiving end. He keeps extracting from you and never replenishes you. He is concerned with the things you can offer him such as doing his laundry, making his food, paying bills, and sex.
He isn’t interested in your growth or any aspect of your life. It’s sure proof that once you stop giving him the pleasures he enjoys then it’s over. Ask yourself one question, what has this man contributed to my life?
7. He Doesn’t Get Jealous
Ultimately, jealousy is driven by emotions. When a man desires you, he becomes overly protective of you. This is simply because he understands that there are other predators around to have you.
He gets jealous when you spend much time on the phone with someone else when you receive gifts from someone else when you go on a date with someone else, and more because he fears being replaced.
When your man doesn’t get jealous when you do such things, be sure he doesn’t care and this only means he doesn’t want you.
8. He Plays The Mind Game
Men are logical thinkers and wouldn’t want to hurt your emotion. So, he plays the mind game by telling you. “He’s not good enough for you and you deserve someone better”. When such discussions begin to arise, be sure he just wants you to leave.
He feels guilty that you’ve invested your time and energy into the friendship and taking more of your time will only prevent the next lady from coming in. Hence, he plays tactically with your psychology.
9. He Is Always Busy
People make out time for who is important, if he says he’s busy, you already know what that means. Some responses you’ll begin to hear are; I got a flat tire, my boss gave me some work to handle, my guys came around today, I’m going to watch a football match, I’m at the gym.
If he’s not creating time for you, then he’s definitely prioritizing someone else.
10. He Compares You To His Ex
When a man isn’t interested in a relationship with you, he makes subtle comparisons with his ex. He tells you how patient and understanding she was, how he enjoys spending time with her, the moments they shared, and how he finds her irreplaceable. He makes you feel incompetent and incomplete.
In conclusion, a man who wants a relationship with you will chase you, protect you and win you over. However, if he doesn’t do this, he may simply not be ready for a relationship or hasn’t completely healed from his previous relationship. Whatever the case, when you see the above red flags be sure he doesn’t want a relationship with you.